People ask me all the time why I photograph boudoir—and honestly, it’s hard to explain unless you’ve experienced it yourself. It’s not just about the photos. It’s about confidence, self-acceptance, and finally seeing yourself differently—maybe for the first time in years.

It’s the shift that happens between the moment you walk into my studio and the moment you walk out. That energy change. That spark. It’s getting pampered, laughing, letting go of whatever’s been weighing you down, and realizing you’re allowed to feel beautiful again.

I started shooting boudoir because I kept seeing what other women couldn’t. They’d walk in and immediately list off everything they didn’t like about themselves. “Too tall.” “Too much weight.” “Too many stretch marks.” But I didn’t see any of that—I saw strength, softness, resilience, and beauty.

And then there are the women who already feel confident, but want to capture that version of themselves—to celebrate who they are and what they’ve overcome. That’s just as powerful. Boudoir isn’t just for women trying to “find” confidence—it’s also for those who want to own it.

And when I showed them their images, everything changed. That look on their face when they finally saw what I saw? That moment changed me too. That’s when I knew this was what I was meant to do.

The Transformation

The transformation that happens in the studio is hands-down my favorite part of this entire experience. Every woman walks in a little differently. Some are nervous and unsure of what to expect. Others walk in with confidence and excitement, ready to celebrate themselves. Both are completely normal—and both experience something powerful.

Sometimes I see shaky hands or hear the “I have no idea what I’m doing” right away. Other times, I see a woman totally owning it from the second she walks through the door. Either way, something shifts once we start. The energy changes. The pressure drops. You start to settle in, and something real begins to come forward.

By the time we wrap up and sit down for the reveal, we’re not just client and photographer anymore. We’ve laughed, shared stories, and created something together that means more than just a photo. That connection—that trust—is everything.

And then the moment happens. The reveal. The jaw-drop. The silence. The smile. Whether someone came in feeling unsure or totally confident, seeing themselves on that screen always lands differently. I hear, “That’s really me?” almost every single time. And often, that’s followed by tears—or that pause when someone gets choked up and doesn’t even have words—because they finally see the power of what we’ve created together.

That’s the power of boudoir. I get to reflect back the version of you that’s always been there—how I see you, how your loved ones see you, how the world sees you when you’re not picking yourself apart.

When you walk out of my studio, something is different. That spark is louder. That confidence sticks. And more often than not, you’re already thinking about the next time you’ll do this again.

A Little Piece of My Story

I’ve spent most of my life feeling uncomfortable in my own body. Like a lot of women, I’ve been my own worst critic. And as I’ve gotten older, that voice hasn’t always gotten quieter. Magazines, media, and social expectations constantly told me how amazing I “should” look and all the things I could do to stay young or fix what wasn’t “ideal.” And I fell for it. We all have at some point.

I’d flip through magazines, see women with perfect bodies, perfect skin, perfect lives—and I didn’t feel like I measured up. And then life hits—relationships shift, sometimes they end—and it’s easy to think maybe it was me. Maybe if I had looked different, been different, things would’ve turned out differently.

But over time, I’ve learned that rejection really is protection. The things that didn’t work out? Those were the things that cleared the way for what’s actually meant for me. My life didn’t turn out the way I planned, but I’m finally grounded. I love where I am now. But getting here meant unlearning a lot of garbage we’ve all carried for way too long.

Growing up, I straightened my curls because that’s what I thought I needed to do to fit in. Straight hair looked polished. Safe. More “normal.” I didn’t want to stand out. It took years to fully embrace my curly hair—and honestly, that journey mirrors the one I’ve had with my body. Slowly learning to love the things I used to try and hide. To be thankful for my health, my strength, and my softness. Learning to stop idolizing perfection and to see that imperfection is human—and that’s more than okay.

The truth is, we pick these things up from the people around us. We hear the women we love criticize themselves, and without even realizing it, we learn that’s how we’re supposed to talk about our own bodies too. And then we pass that down unless we make a conscious choice to do something different.

That’s why I care so much about what I do. I want the women who walk into my studio to experience something completely different. I want them to leave that self-criticism at the door and see themselves with fresh eyes. Not because they changed anything—but because they finally saw what was already there.

I recently stepped in front of the camera myself—and let me tell you, it was hard. Even knowing everything I know, even guiding women through this experience every week, being the one in front of the lens brought up every insecurity I thought I’d already worked through. But something changed. I saw myself differently. Stronger. Softer. Seen.

That moment reminded me why this work matters so much. Boudoir isn’t about becoming someone else—it’s about returning to yourself. And once you’ve seen yourself like that, you don’t go back to picking yourself apart the same way. Something shifts—and it sticks.

If you’ve ever felt like you don’t belong in your body, if you’ve ever felt like you needed to change to be enough, I want you to know you’re not alone. And you don’t have to wait until you “fix” anything. You’re already enough as you are.

Let me help you see it.

Yep, That’s Me—at My Own Boudoir Shoot

For the longest time, I couldn’t understand how so many women found the courage to do this. I’d watch client after client walk into my studio, trust me completely, and leave glowing. But me? I couldn’t seem to take that same step for myself.

So I finally did. I started small. My first session was with just my husband behind the camera, and then I booked a real session with one of my best friends—an amazing photographer, Dalisa. And let me tell you… I felt SO uncomfortable and awkward. I kept thinking, what am I even doing right now? All the same insecurities I hear from my clients came rushing in.

But the thing is—that’s normal. And that’s exactly why I needed to do it. Because once I saw the images, everything shifted. I didn’t see all the flaws I was so sure would jump out at me. I saw someone strong. I saw softness. I saw me, exactly as I am right now. And for the first time in a long time, I actually believed I was beautiful.

That experience reminded me to speak to myself the way I speak to my best friend. Kinder. Softer. With more grace.

This work—boudoir—it’s not just about pictures. It’s a journey. And it takes patience and a whole lot of unlearning. But it’s one worth taking, and it’s one I want to help other women walk through too.

I know we all have rough days. I know that voice in your head can be brutal. But you are not alone in this. We’re all just trying to find a little more peace in our own skin.

You are your own worst critic—but what if you could see what I see? What your loved ones see? That version of you deserves to be front and center.

Boudoir photography, to me, is about honoring all of it—your body, your story, the battles you’ve fought, and the wins you’ve earned along the way. It’s about coming home to yourself.

Let me show you that side of you. Let me help you feel proud of who you are—not someday, but right now.

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